Artists in Love, Part 5

MY WIFE HAS THE PROBLEM Many relationships are peppered with blaming. Artists’ relationships are no different. Consider the following coaching session from my creativity coaching practice. Jake, a would-be filmmaker in his early thirties, came to see me. “How are you...

Artists in Love, Part 4

Hello, everybody: Let’s continue our chat from last week. Artists struggle as they try to balance their desire for relationship with the many real and perceived drawbacks of relationship. Some come to feel that they do best with a partner whom they see relatively...

Artists in Love, Part 3

Few people are spared relationship problems. For thousands of years the divorce rate was kept artificially low by cultural injunctions against divorce, cultural norms that painted marriage as the only right and normal option, a vesting of privilege and control in...

Artists in Love, Part 2

Last week we looked at ten building blocks that make for a successful intimate relationship between two artists or between an artist and a non-artist. Here are the remaining ten building blocks: 11. Maintenance of friendship. Nothing is more crucial to the viability...

Artists in Love, Part 1

What is required of two people, when one or both of them is an artist, for the creation and maintenance of a solid intimate relationship? In my experience, for such a relationship to work–and to last—it must be founded on twenty particular building blocks. Here...